Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Can I be a Counselor?

Can I be a COUNSELOR?
Counselor’s Personal Qualities
Sincere interest in the welfare of others
Ability & willingness to be present in client’s joy or pain
Recognition & acceptance of one’s strength & vitality; no need to diminish others
Found one’s own counseling style.
Willingness to be vulnerable & take risks
Self- respect, self-appreciation, strong sense of self-worth
Serve as models for clients
Risk mistakes & admit making them
Growth orientation
Sense of humor

Counselor’s Interpersonal Skills
Pragmatism
Competence
Respect
Genuineness
Promotion of client empowerment & self-responsibility

10 components of Effective Counselor:
1. Self-awareness
2. Psychological health
3. Sensitivity to racial, ethnic, & cultural factors
4. Open-mindedness
5. Objectivity
6. Competence
7. Trustworthiness
8. Interpersonal attractiveness
9. Good listener
10. Good appearance

Self-Awareness
Need to
Give or nurture
Be liked, respected, loved; receive approval
Control, be critical, be right
Motivation for helping
Feelings
Happiness, satisfaction
Hurt, disappointment
Anger, sadness
Fear, confusion
Personal strengths, limitations, & coping skills

Psychological Health
Psychologically intact
Free from over-whelming problems
Recognize and manage personal issues
Refer clients with problems like your own to other counselors
Seek services of a counselor for yourself, if necessary.

Cultural Sensitivity
Focused
Culture-Specific
All cultures must be understood for their uniqueness.
Universal
Broadens the definition of minority and argues for a subjective, more inclusive understanding of cultural impacts.

Cultural Sensitivity
Focused culture-specific:  too many variables confuse multiculturalism; render it meaningless.
Universal: culture must be defined by more than just racial or ethnic factors.
Gender, age, and physical disabilities
Race, ethnicity
Sexual orientation
Socioeconomic level
Religion and spiritual affiliation
Integrative: 
Focused culture-specific and the universal approach are both important
Both approaches are blended in “multicultural counseling and therapy” (Ivey, et al., 1997).
Cultural Competence:
Be aware of your own cultural heritage.
Expand your range of experience.
Seek interaction opportunities with others different from yourself.
Be open to continuous learning about differing groups.
Be honest about your range of experience.
Power
Privilege
Poverty
Oppression
Consider referring a client you cannot help from your own range of experience.

Open-Mindedness
Freedom from fixed or preconceived ideas
Enlightenment
Internal knowledge
Perceptions, myths
Standards, values, judgments
Assumptions, biases
Knowledge of the world outside your own world

Objectivity
Balance involvement with objective assessment.
Provide a new perspective to “reframe” the client’s issues(s).
Avoid dysfunctional communication patterns.
Recognize manipulation attempts by the client.
Safeguards against countertransference:
Counterproductive emotional reaction;
Entanglement of the counselor’s needs in the client relationship;
The need to please one’s client;
Over-identification with client’s problem(s);
Romantic or sexual feelings toward a client;
Need to give constant advice;
Need to form friendships.

Competence
Required to transmit and build confidence and hope with clients.
Needed to develop positive client expectations from the counseling experience.
Assures ability to work with wide variety of clients and client problems.
Includes multicultural competence as previously discussed.
Egan (1998): The counselor is determined, by outcome of client results, to possess the necessary information, knowledge, and skills.
Kleinke (1994):  Includes knowledge of psychological processes, assessment,
clinical skills, technical skills, judgment, ethics and personal effectiveness.
(Strong, 1968; Strong & Schmidt, 1970; Strong & Claiborn, 1982):  Includes knowledge of psychological processes, assessment, clinical skills, technical skills, judgment, ethics and personal effectiveness.

Trustworthiness
Do not promise more than you can do, and be sure you do exactly as you have promised.
Hard to establish; easy to destroy
Includes
predictability,
reliability,
responsibility,
ethical standards.
Safeguard clients’ communications.
Respond with energy to client concerns.
Essential to
Establish a base of influence,
Encourage clients’ self-disclosure.
The counselor cannot act trustworthy. The counselor must be trustworthy

Interpersonal Attractiveness
Counselors appear “attractive” when they are seen as similar to or compatible with the client.
May be determined by instinct or selected dimensions:
Gender or age,
Demeanor or attitude, likeability and friendliness,
Worldview, theory, or approach.

Good Listener
Active listening:
Paying attention: Eye contact, nodding, etc.
Hearing before evaluating.
Listening for the whole message.
Paraphrasing what was heard.
Probe for causes and feelings.


36 comments:

  1. Assalammualaikum w.b.t.. :)

    I wonder myself, can I be a good counselor.. And I say yes.. Why?
    Because I eager to be a counselor. I love to help others, especially kids. I can say that my happiness is when I see others are smiling because of me.. :)
    For sure, between 10 of the components to an effective counselor, I can say that I have all the 10 components. I am a good listener and you can trust on me, because to be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved..

    Seriously? Haha..
    Yes.. I'm serious, but to be a real counselor, much work need to be done, polish the skills and practice.
    Be a counselor to ourselves first before being a counselor for anyone else..

    That's all from me. Thank you.. Have a nice day..

    - Wahidah bt Rosmizam. ( Tesl 5B).

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  2. Assalamualaikum,

    I want to be a counselor bt I am afraid to deal with people I dont really know as I have a hard time to build rapport with people.

    In my high school years, I love to see my counselor to do Personality Tests as its reveal many things abt oneself. So, if I become a teacher-counselor I will apply this method to be close with my clients.

    TQ.

    Kamaliasari Binti Harun
    033881 (Tesl 5A)

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  3. Assalamualaikum..

    I'm not very sure that I can be a counselor because, I'm not really open-minded person and I'm easily to get mad. Moreover, I think I'm not qualified to be a counselor.

    But, I'm a good listener and trustworthy. Hehe. I like to help and listen to their problems but I don't know how to give advice to them in proper way. I'm scared the way I give advice to them can hurt their feeling or can make them to hate me.

    From my friend's experience, when she was in form 5, she has been forced to see the counselor. Her result decrease because of puppy love. She has been scolded by the counselor at the school. After the she met the counselor, she did not smile and then she cry. Lastly, she cursed the counselor and hate him ( the counselor) until forever maybe.

    Sometimes I think that counseling session is not helpful and sometimes it become worse for the client. Haha. But it's depend on the counselor it self. It is not easy to be a counselor.

    That's all. Thank you.

    Fairuz Alwani Bt Mohd Adnan.
    033853
    Tesl 5A.

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  4. I think I cannot be a good counselor. I don't really have those skills. But luckily, I love counseling so much. Since I was 10 years old, I wanted to be a motivator speaker. I had planned to further my study in Psychology. But I have to accept that Allah had planned something better for me.

    In order to be a good counselor, for my opinion, we need to practice it first with our friends. As example, we help to motivate them when they are having a problem. We can actually practice those skills with our peers instead of straight away to the students.

    Thank you
    Nurul Shahira Jamalluddin
    033650
    Tesl 5B

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  5. Bismillah. Assalamualaikum and greetings to all.

    Speaking about being a counselor, sometimes I’m a little bit confused. Am I qualified to be a good counselor? However by following my own intuition, I can feel that I can be a good counselor or at least just a counselor and believe me everyone also can be! Nothing’s impossible! Frankly speaking, I think and maybe I have the qualities to be a counselor and this was based on my own experience. Ever since during my High School days until now, many people of all ages would come and see me, talk to me, share their problems, their joys and grief, ask for my opinion, my advice and many things which I thought only counselors could handle this kind of thing because sometimes it is not easy to deal with people as we think or as we've been exposed through social media.

    However, I believe that I still need to improve myself in order to be a good counselor. In addition, I also need to implant some of the components of a good counselor in myself such as competence and objectivity. Lastly, I also believe that we need to be the counselor for ourselves first before counselling others.

    Thank you and Jzkk :)

    Farah Hamiza Abd Ghani
    034396
    TESL 5B

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  6. Assalamualaikum w.b.t,

    Actually I do really interested to be a counselor. I am a good listener and trustworthy too. I would love to help other peoples to solve their problems and become a better person. But for somehow, I am afraid that my client couldn't accept my opinion since we had a different way of thinking. If there is an opportunity for me to be a counselor, I would like to give it a try and give my best to serve my clients. I wish I can be a good counselor one day. Wish me luck.

    That's all from me. Thank you.

    Ruzaini Bt Atan (034098) Tesl A

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  7. Assalamualaikum w.b.t

    Can I be a counselor??? hehe.... Actually, I don't really interested to be a counselor. I don't like to burden myself with someone's problems because I already have a lot of problems to handle. Sometimes, having problems without knowing to handle them can make crazy. But, at the same time, I am a trustworthy person. Believe in me ! haha... because my best friends always share their problems with me and I never spread them to anyone else especially about love problems.. hihihi........ Wish me luck and all the best !

    That's all..thank you.

    Siti Maheran binti Zainal (034022) Tesl 5A

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  8. Assalamualaikum.

    Can i be a counselor??
    Yes, I sure that i can be a good counselor because first of all, i'm a good listener. I really love to listen the others problem. Sometimes, if i can, i will give advise for those who have problem. Other than that, people can put their trust on me, because i'm a person who have trustworthiness in myself. haha. InsyaAllah.

    That's all. Thank you.
    Nur Amanina Bt Hanafi (034084) Tesl 5A

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  9. Assalamualaikum. Can i be a good counsellor? If from my opinion, I dont think that I can be a good one. This is because I dont have the ability to convince people, to influence people and a good counsellor should be able to make their client feel at ease when consulting. I dont know if from other people point of view on me they see that i can be a good counsellor.
    That's all from me, thank you.
    Hasrul Haniff Bin Hamdan,
    033403
    Tesl 5B

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  10. can i be a counselor? haha..im still thinking about that. i love to listen my friend's problem, but to settle it down i think it is not my job, who cares, haha, ouchh so terrible. i promise to myself i will try my best to change my attitude because i believe people can change easily but needs time. who knows one fine day i will be like Dato' Fadhilah Khamsah,hehe, pray for me.
    that's alla from me, thank you
    nur asilah pakhrol rozi( tesl 5b)
    033765

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  11. Hi, I am Halimatus Saadiah Abdul Wahid. When my friends share their problems or ask opinions from me, all I did was I listened to them and tried give advices to them. But they seem not interested in my advices lol I don't know why. Maybe my advises were not serious or I don't give good options, I don't know. Thus, I don't think that I can be a good counselor. I am a good listener and can keep secrets (and sometimes I will forget what they told me lol), but I don't know how to give good advices. #Iamnotagoodfriend T.T

    033987
    Tesl 5B

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  12. Assalamualaikum,

    According to above question, my answer is that I'm not pretty sure about it. I'm not an open-minded neither a good listener. Despite, I prefer to participate in listening to some problems which I find related to my problems. Thus, I would definitely give a contribution of a few suggestions and solutions in order to solve them, although it may not turn out.

    Fatin Nadiah bt Che Yoob
    Tesl 5B
    033440

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  13. Assalam. To answer the question, it would be a definite no for me.

    I'm not much of a people person: I don't socialize well with others and I'm not a fan of dealing with people and their problems. (thus, ultimately crossing out the first personal quality of a counselor: sincere interest in the welfare of others) Not saying that I wouldn't help a friend coming to me, I would, it's just that I wouldn't want to make a job out of it, to be the one people turn to for advice and whatnot. I feel like I'd be putting on a facade for the strangers in distress coming into my office, and I feel like I'd ruin their life even more with my pathetic attempts at advising (it's safe to say that my life is a gallery of reckless decisions haha).

    I don’t have what it takes to be a counselor, but I would encourage those who do. :-)

    Huda Bahrudin
    TESL 5A
    033512

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  14. Assalamualaikum, for me I can be a counselor because I have a lot of experience during my student times. I think i can help people with some little problems. At the same time, I cannot motivate myself if i had a problems but still I can help people with problems.

    Mohamad Aizamuddin Bin Bahrun
    TESL 5A
    033402

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  15. Assalamualaikum sir,

    Can I be a counselor?
    Frankly speaking, being a counselor is not one of my options. I've tried many times when my friends ask me for advice or something, i end up giving answers that make them unsatisfied. Haha!!! One more thing, i don't really bother about others' life. Only if they want to share something with me, then I don't mind lending my shoulders and ears. I believe that be a listener is not enough to claim that I can be a counselor as well. Out of the 10 components, I don't think i develop any of them.

    So, the answer for the question is no. Not even a glance of it. Thank you.

    Nur Intan Raihana binti Rahimi
    033296
    TESL 5A

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  16. Assalamualaikum w.b.t.
    According to the question given, I think I cant be a counselor. Why? Because I'm not a good adviser. Maybe I just can be a good listener for them but I cant give a brilliant advice for them. Furthermore, I cant control my emotion when facing a critical problems. Just an addition, I'm not good enough in making a decisions. Sincerely, I'm not prefer to have a job on this field but I'm really love to study on this field.
    I think that's all from me,

    Mohd Amirul Naqib Mohd Marzuki
    034328
    Tesl 5A

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  17. salam

    can i be a counselor?

    i think no.. because i'm not a good listener... i cannot give a serious solution to anybody that ask my opinion about their problem. my friends that who know me well also admit that i am not a serious person... and i admit that that i'm not good in make a decision..hehe..and i think i did not want to handle anyone problem whereas i also have another problem to solve...it is not myself..

    so, counselor is not my option at all..tq :)

    faqihah qayyimah bt mohd nasri
    033933
    tesl 5A

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  18. Assalamualaikum. Greetings.

    Can I be a counsellor?

    Honestly, I don't think I can become a counsellor. Even though I am a good listener, I am seriously bad in giving advice. I think that is because of my anxiety problem. I am afraid that I will say something wrong that will hurt their feelings. Most of them who tried to consult with me about their problems end up seeking advice from another person. Also, I don't think that I can always be there for someone whom I rarely know. It will be very awkward for me and it will only worsen my nervousness. From that, I strongly think that I am not qualified plus I have no interested in becoming a counsellor.

    Thank you.

    Najwa Amanina bt Bizami
    033324
    TESL 5A

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  19. Can I be a good counselor? hahah, maybe yes maybe no. but I think I can't be a good counselor. totally no. why? because i think i don't really have my self-awareness better. throughout my life, i love to listen to my friends problem. it doesn't mean that i am a busy body person. the thing is they, themselves came to see me and and try to tell me their problems. so, i just listen to what they're going to tell about and i'll try to always respond to them. my purpose is i want they feel they're not alone. there still has someone whose always besides them.

    For now, i can say that i can't be a good counselor. but maybe one day it will change. who knows? ;) Allah knows better. thank you.

    Nur Farhana binti Jepri
    033576
    TESL 5B

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  20. In my opinion, I think I can be a counselor but not a good one because I think I do not have one of the component which is the “Interpersonal attractiveness” component. You know, I cannot help myself for not having a sense of humor but I’m sure I will develop it as the time goes. Anyways, I’m a very good listener for sure, so those who has problem to share, just let me know. :)

    Siti Fatimah Az-Zahra binti Ramli
    033925
    TESL 5A

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  21. Assalamualaikum w.b.t.

    Can I be a counsellor? Well, I don’t think I’m capable of being one. I’m bad in giving ideas or advices to someone accept for problems that I’m common with. Plus, I’m not a humorous girl. I do easily smile and laugh but somehow these can make stress people become more stress as they think I have no problems at all in my life. Meanwhile I do have unsolved problems. Huhu. :’(
    Still, I am a good listener and strong enough to control my temper, that’s my specialties!! :D

    So, as for now, I think I won’t be a counsellor. But, I’m not yet being certain of my future. I might be one someday, perhaps. :)
    Pray for our success!!! ^_^
    Thank You.

    Nur Zahidah binti Mohd Zabri
    033797
    TESL 5A

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  22. Assalamualaikum w.b.t.

    Frankly speaking, we think that we can't be a good counselor. Why why why? It is because we do not have a lot of skills to solve problem. But, we are good at listening to other's problem. We can spend a thousand years to listen to their problem, but it is hard for us to find a good solution for them.

    Maybe there is another job that is more suitable for us.

    Nurfatihah Bt Mat Nawi
    033898
    TESL 5B
    Nur Azmira Bt Mohamad Rashid
    033887
    TESL 5B
    Fatin Mardhiah Bt Omar
    034343
    TESL 5B
    Nuradyani Bt Othman
    033907
    TESL 5B
    Nur Zati Fatanah Bt Zulkefly
    034448
    TESL 5B

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  23. Assalamualaikum & a very good day :)

    Being a caunselor is not an easy thing to do thus I do not think I am ready yet to be one. This is because you know sometimes me, myself, I am not motivated at all. I can be a good listener but I think I should improve myself and try to get motivated most of the time in order for me to motivate my friends. After all I am still in the process of learning and surveying everything around me right now. Lets just hope for a better future insyaAllah.

    Thats all, thank you.

    Putri Aisyah Nadira Othman, Tesl 5A (034241)

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  24. Assalamualaikum,

    Can I be a counselor? I don't think I can be a good one because out of all the components I only master in becoming a loyal listener. This is because, my friends always willing to share their problems with me. Unfortunately, I cannot give good feedback to them as I just either feel sorry or just make a smile to them. I feel sorry to those who ever shared their problems with me. T_T

    Thank you.

    Nur Adibah Mahalim
    033685
    Tesl 5A

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  25. Assalamualaikum =)

    Can I be a Counselor?

    Hmm.. Might be a good career, I think, but it does not cross my mind in the first place. That is not because I hate about Counselor, no! but yeah, there are any other jobs that caught my attention(even I rarely meet with a Counselor..hihi). For sure, I am not good enough to give a good advice on some problems, but I willing to listen to problems that someone's face. This type of people they don't need someone to solve their problems, but they just want to share to make them relief or more calm.

    Maybe I will be a teacher in the future, so my responsibility is just not to teach on a subject, but also gives good advices or messages to my students so that they are not doing a negative thing they should not do. Well, whether I like it or not I must be prepared to take this as a challenge and motivation for myself to seek more knowledge about this from now on.
    Thank you.

    Nurul Shafikah bt Omar
    033420
    Tesl 5A

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  26. Assalamualaikum w.b.t.
    Being a good counselor, I need to be a good listener and know how to give options in solving my clients' problem. I don't think that I will be a good counselor. The thing is, I can be a good listener but I may give my clients the wrong options.

    In future, I really want to be an educator that my students feel comfortable to share problems with. In order to achieve that, I need to improve myself in soo many ways. so that i can help people but in Malaysia, not may people are interested to go and see the counselor when they are facing difficultuies.
    thank you.
    Siti Hajar Samaluddin
    033849
    Tesl 5A

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  28. Assalamualaikum.

    I don't think that I can be a good counselor as I just have few of component needed as a counselor. I'm a good listener but not good in giving advices as I scared that I give them a wrong options. I want to be a good counselor because I love to help people in need but it takes times to be a good counselor as client need.

    So for now maybe not but in future I hope that I can be a good counselor not for other people only but also for me myself to develop my own motivation.

    Thank you.

    Siti Aisyah Ramli
    033561
    TESL 5A

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  29. Asalammualaikum,
    First of all,I don't really think that I can be a good counselor.Why?? it is because I think that most of us can be a good listener but not all can be a good adviser.Being a good adviser is not as easy as you think because maybe your advises would give bad effect to other people life.But, I loves to give advise and support to my family members and to my best friends.By doing that,at least they have shoulders to cry on.I think that's all for now.Thank you.

    Fatin bt Ariffin
    033653
    Tesl 5A

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  30. Assalamualaikum w.b.t

    Can I be a Counselor?

    for me myself, i really loves to share my problems with my friends, its because i felt relieved when i did told my problems to them i cried and sometimes i don't really need they to respond but only need they to listen. so, my friend and I share our problem together and kept each other secret.

    The most important component to be a good counselor is trustworthiness, when someones have told their problems, they really hope that their secrets will be secure :)

    As for me, i think i might not be a good counselor but maybe i can be good listener : D InsyaALLAH :)

    thank you :)

    Nurul Fildza Fatihah Zainal
    034159
    TESL B

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  31. Assalamualaikum w.b.t

    The thought of being a counselor had popped up in my head far too many times that I’d hope. The thing is, I am so dynamic that I can empathize with so many people and believe that I can actually make a career out of it. Albeit, I am definitely not a good counselor since I don’t trust my mouth and give limited options to the point of none. The fact that I am a panic freak and have zero self-esteem does not help either. However, fear not, if Archimedes can discover water buoyancy , surely I could find the passion of counseling somewhere in my complicated personalities and celebrate the ‘eureka’ moment. In shaa Allah

    Nur Farina Binti Zainol Aman
    033645
    TESL B

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  32. Assalamualaikum.
    I don't think that I can be a good counselor. Maybe, I can be a good listener but not as a good advisor. In terms of solving their problems, I think that I could not face it because I'm not competence enough to face with others. If they told me their secret, I have the components of trustworthiness. I will try my best to have all these components because I am going to be a teacher,insyaAllah.

    Nuramirah Binti Abdul Razak
    033617
    TESL B

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  33. Assalam
    Can I be a counselor? Well I am a good listener and I always be the first place to my friends tell me about their problems (Okay, actually what I try to say?) and even their secret and surprisingly is sometimes I'm not even so close to them but they tell me about their secret and when I asked them why they told me( because I thinks that sometimes they just have to keep it as a secret), they said because they believe in me. Seriously speaking, I'm not kind of person who love to interrupt in others life and sometimes I feels like I'm not caring person. It is not because I don't care but it is because I respect the others life and I thinks that everyone need privacy and that's why I really appreciate for those who are respect my private life.

    Before this I am a cheerful and talkative girl but now after I wearing the niqob, I became a silent one (hehehe I dont know why, but maybe it is because I want to improve myself and I was read a saying said that 'akhlak itu bunga diri' because I am a naughty student back then ).

    I also a good listener and sensitive when my friends tell me their sad stories, sometimes when they are crying, I crying too hoho, I cant control my feelings. but on top of all I'm good in giving advice even I'm not practise that advise in myself, yeah maybe it because it easier said than done. I just have a lot of empathy in myself and I always put myself in the others shoes.

    I dont know whether I''m qualified to a counselor, sir, what do you think? Can I be a counselor?

    hehe sometimes a question doesnt need an answer but you need to questioned it back, haha okay i just create a new quote, okay okay not funny at all.

    Sir, seriously speaking I have a lot of experiences even though I am still young maybe it because I am a naughty and stubborn student before this, I've experienced on how the feeling of not accepted to be in the hostel and etc. and I also a good adviser in terms of love even though I never know how it feels when the person you like,likes you back. It is because I always there hearing their problems with their boyfriends and I read a lots of love story (yeah, back the)
    okay wahida, stop writing.
    So sir, I think I understand when the students have the bad behavior in them. I love studying about psychology, counseling and others in the same field but to be a counselor... emm I have to rethink about it. So, if you think that I am qulified to be a good counselor please the feedback( okay, kidding) H.A.M.B.A.R~
    That's all, thank you
    Nurwahida Binti Nafi
    Bda13 034080
    Tesl B

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  34. Assalamualaikum.

    Can I be a good counselor?

    For my opinion, I don't think that I can be a good counselor. Maybe more to a good listener like others. I do can give advises but just in general.

    However, if I'll be a teacher, I'll try my best to help my students and listen to their problems and give advises. At least I know their problems and try to solve it.

    Thank you.

    Hasanah binti Yusof
    BDA 13034413
    TESL 5A

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  35. Can I be a counselor?

    Sometimes I think may be...but I need to learn a lot of things first since I'm not qualified yet. Counselor is the second profession after a teacher that I've been dreaming of. It's a long way to go.... but who knows what is written for you in the future....

    Thank you.

    Farwina Binti Yussuf
    034160
    TESL 5A

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  36. Can i be a counselor???

    I'm not really interested to be a counselor because me, myself is not a good listener but, who knows that maybe on one fine day, I will be a counselor.
    Perhaps.....

    Thank you.

    Sofia Rohayani Binti Zulkefli
    033720
    TESL 5A

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